Get Sad Not Mad
When our children do things wrong we can often get angry. The problem is, anger causes us, and our children, to become defensive. Once we put up our defenses, we dig in to our position. We don't want to change our thoughts or behaviors. When we disappoint someone, the driving reaction is usually, wanting to make them feel better.
If we get angry, our child will push back. If we show sadness, our child will lean in.